reading over your thread looks like you have a couple seperate issues, my suggestion to get this resolved the fastest way would be to call fortin tech support when you have the vehicle and module and rf kit on hand. 1-877-336-7797.
a few things to try before calling:
-does it remote start if you put the head of the key infront of the ignition barrel?
-you mentioned checking the wires, if the starter wire on the evo is outputting during rs the car should crank, perhaps check afrter your connection to make sure it reaches the vehicle.
-Are you able to enter and exit valet mode using the valet switch?
-if you unplug the 20 pin connector can you enetetr pairing mode using the valet switch?